Fatherhood

Kenn was reading through my blog and smiling (Kenn is my knight in shining armour, my heartbeat *wink wink - my husband) and asked me "when are you going to write about fatherhood, sisterhood, brotherhood and robin hood?". I laughed. He has a huge sense of humour but that got me thinking back to 2 nights ago when I had 3 kids come spend d night at my house with their mother. I kept wondering when they would go to bed as it was a school night; instead, they sat watching cartoon network; so I watched as the hours crept by - 8pm, 9pm, 10pm! Then I decided it was time to change the channel and I told the oldest nicely that I wanted to watch something else (I had been severely warned by their mom not to scold her children not matter what after I scolded him for hitting an elder when he was rebuked. She said she talks to them in love). He went off to report me to his mother while the younger brother spent the whole time screaming and crying (all in the name of sleep) while being "backed" around the place. "If I don't back him, he won't sleep" the nanny said. Well, he was backed and didn't sleep until 1am, crying the whole time!!  Even my 6 month old knows her bed time and bed space and lies there singing softly until she falls asleep! The older one came back to tell me he would report me to his daddy... I could almost hear Kendra saying "if only you know my dad, he would flog your behind"

Kenn was in shock and kept repeating "my children will never be this spoiled". I agree with him.

Mothers are known to show love to the children while fathers are expected to instill discipline in them (not that the roles cannot reversed). Problem now is, some fathers and sadly mothers are too busy making money and closing business deals that these children grow up without any values. Every child needs to grow up with a mother and father figure (it balances them out). Where the biological parents are not available, they choose role models. Somehow, these role models end up becoming the father/mother image they never had. This could be anyone ranging from a nanny to a jeans sagging rapper on channel O.

Remember the story of the 4yr old boy who was sexually abused by a 10yr old girl? Not in the western world, NO, not in a movie; right here on nigerian soil!!!

This is the time to raise the preserved generation. We can't keep letting people raise our kids for us. We need to show them the way, mould them into the future generation we need so badly. Fathers your children need you to spend time positively impacting them. Mothers too.

Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it - Proverbs 22:6